Thursday, April 2, 2020

What Do You Like to Do?

What do you like to do? It's a question I've been asked a lot in the last six months.  Most of my life I've been asked "What do you do?" - in the context of a career or employment. Since moving to an over-55 community, aka "retirement community" the question has changed because the assumption is that you're retired.

This is a question I'm totally unprepared for. I like to sleep but I know that's not the answer anyone is looking for. My personal belief is that sleep is completely underrated.

But seriously, I like a variety of things and I've done a variety of things, some of which I liked better than others. Some I'm willing to do again, others not so much.

For example, I like to read. I've liked reading my entire life - even before I could do it myself. But I don't really want to join a book club because I like to choose what I want to read, when I want to read it and I don't like to be on a schedule.

Then there is needlework. A seemingly infinite variety of needlework - knitting, crocheting, sewing, quilting, embroidery, needlepoint, weaving and tatting. Have I missed any? Oh yeah, latch hook. We'll talk about those tomorrow, but for now let's just say maybe.

I like to play golf but I don't want to play every day. And around here, I'm told that if you're not going to play at least three times a week, joining the club is not fiscally responsible. So I'm not going to join the club, which means that I can't join the official 18 hole group, but I can play with the official 9 hole group.  Or I can play with an unofficial group that likes to play on the same day every week and Mark and I can play 9 or 18 any time we want to. But now that we're in the middle of a stay at home order, it looks like I won't be playing at all.

As for other sports, I don't care much. My knees will no longer allow me to play tennis or ski. I suspect pickle ball is something else my knees wouldn't like. Once the pandemic is over, we may try bocce except that they play so early in the morning. I don't follow any pro or college teams and Mark doesn't care very much, either.

Then there's crafting and painting. I go to craft fairs from time to time and look at things and say to myself  "I could make that!". Yes, I could but chances are good that I won't. Unless it's a holiday decoration and then I might. In the "not a holiday decoration" category, I made a macrame plant hanger once - a long time ago back in the 70s when it was something of a pandemic. (I don't know where it is now.) As far as painting goes, I'm not talented but I can make something that's good enough to fill the space if I need to. But doing things out of necessity isn't the same as a hobby.

I loved gardening when I was in Texas. Although in recent years I had to pay someone to do the weeding. Now I'll be doing most all my gardening in pots. I'm still learning what plants will do well in my new climate, but right now I have no spare pots and no way to buy plants.

Then there's cooking - because I like eating, and I don't like eating the same thing over and over. I never saw my mother use a recipe for anything other than baking cookies. She had a few cookbooks. I know because I have them now. And while I didn't know the day of the week based on what was on the table, I did know that if she was making pork chops, she would be making them the same way she'd made them the week before. She made the food her mother taught her to make (and the food my father liked) - fried chicken, fried pork chops, and pot roast, mostly seasoned with salt and pepper. Don't know how Sloppy Joes got into the mix - it wasn't something Grandma made. And by the way, pasta was NOT a staple in our house when I was growing up. I'm on the opposite end of that spectrum. I like trying new recipes. Recipes often don't get back into the rotation for months if not years. I have just about every spice known to man. But because I'm usually following a new recipe, I do very few things from memory. Although I have a few basic recipes in my head in the event I fail to plan ahead. Fortunately, Mark likes to cook every now and then, (mostly because if he didn't, he would not get his shepherd's pie, spaghetti Bolognese, and some other dishes he considers comfort food on a regular basis. It also seems that baking is considered a hobby, but cooking is not.

Several times I've been asked if I play cards or games. I like them -  in a casual way. It's been fun to spend an evening playing dominoes, cards, and/or board games with friends. It's something to do while you socialize. On the other hand, I know people who play bridge several times a week and others who have a weekly poker game. I just can't see myself doing that.

Maybe this makes me a Jack of all trades and master of none. And that's okay, I do like variety and I'm willing to try most things - except sky diving and car racing - although there was a time...but I've closed that window.

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